A little background. I'm bi and have a bi girlfriend (we're both women.) Occasionally, we hook Beautiful couples searching nsa Huntsville Alabama up with guys. Our goal is to find one we like for an ongoing thing. We found one who we like, my girlfriend likes especially, here on CL. We don't him as often as we like but it's been a good twenty times, sometimes all of us together and other times each of us with him individually. He's been less available of late, he said he's having health issues, fine, no problem. My gf has been brooding because we've seen so little of him. I couldn't sleep a few nights ago so I was on CL, just browsing for fun. Came across an almost exact replica of his ad we responded to last. I was bummed, more so because I knew if my gf saw it or knew he was looking for others, she'd be really sad. So I messaged him and said I saw an ad that looked a lot like his, and that I knew I couldn't dictate to him what he does outside of us, but could he change a certain phrase (it was in his last ad and he says it, too, so the ad much shouts "this is me!") I asked him to do that so if my gf saw it too, that she wouldn't be upset (she has some other things going on personally which he knows, too and I'd like to spare her that strife.) He messaged back and said it wasn't him. He had explanations that it could have been a copy cat or that someone thought they knew something and was trying to start trouble. I was leery of that response, something just didn't seem right about it. Occam's razor, IMHO. He then said, why don't you message the poster and what you get back. So I did, from a different account than what I use for him, and lied about my stats to if I'd get a response. Took a few days, and the initial response was from an anon address, as were all but one of the messages we traded back and forth. I ed the one not from the anon and of course, it's him. Ugh, I feel like a drama magnet. So I have to tell her, right? She'll be sad her but better that I tell her than to run the risk she sees the ad, wonders the same thing I did, and then obsesses about it. I just hate being the bearer of bad news. And this is a rhetorical question, but why did he have to talk about having feelings for us and wanting to be with us more and wishing things could be different if he was just going to hound it up behind out backs, and then lie about it when busted?